Bringing back Romance

Romance dies, that's a fact, right? When you find the love of your life, you'll both settle into a daily routine of financial, household, and child-rearing responsibilities, forgetting you are a couple, right? Romance will only last through the initial crush of the relationship. There are many relationships where romance is alive and well. I am in such a relationship, and you can be as well. After that you and your partner will start taking each other for granted, right? It does not have to be this way.


This means if romance dies, one or both people in the relationship will begin to feel unappreciated. For many, this can be the beginning of the end of the relationship, or perhaps the beginning of an affair. And in case you think this is a trivial subject, please know romance matters to the health and well being of your relationship. Being romantic is nothing more or less than appreciating and celebrating your partner.



Learn compassion and acceptance.

Realize that your partner is human, no matter how perfect he or she seemed in the beginning. He is going to do things that bug you. She is going to do things to disappoint you. Most importantly, remember your partner is not imperfect to hurt you. His or her imperfections are not an indication of a lack of love for you.




Communicate, communicate, and communicate negative emotions.


The best thing to do with any negative emotion is to get it out in the open and resolve it. But communicate these emotions instead of accusing your partner of making you feel this way or that. Communicate when you feel hurt. Communicate when you need something to change. Communicate when you are disappointed. Communicate when you feel angry. Communicate when you feel needy. It is the negative emotions like those above we tend to not want to communicate in a relationship.



Celebrate your partner every day.


I know this one is hard to do, but here is something that will help immediately. For all you know, today could be the last day you and your partner have together. And if it is the last day, you won't know it until it is over. The thing most people regret when a loved one dies is not having had the opportunity to say, "I love you." If a loved one has died in your life, you know exactly what I mean. Live each day as if it were the last day of your relationship. If this really were the last day with your partner, you would want him or her to know how much he or she is loved and appreciated.