100 WAYS YOU CAN LOVE YOUR WIFE HER WAY

Discuss this list with your wife. Ask her to check the ones meaningful to her, and then have her arrange them in the order she considers important. Use the list as a basis for learning her views. Your relationship can be greatly strengthened as you learn how to use these suggestions.

1. Communicate with her; don't close her out.
2. Talk to her without harshness.
3. Do everything you can to understand her feelings.
4. Be interested in her friends and occasionally give her time to be with them (if they are trustworthy).5. Ask her opinion frequently.
6. Show her you value what she says.
7. Find ways to help her sense your approval and affection.
8. Protect her on a daily basis.
9. Be gentle and tender with her.
10. Make an effort to laugh together every day — even through the toughest of times.
11. Avoid making sudden major changes without discussion and without giving her time to adjust.
12. Respond openly and verbally when she wants to communicate.
13. Comfort her when she's down emotionally. For instance, put your arms around her and silently hold her for a few seconds without lectures or put-downs.
14. Show interest in what she feels is important in life.
15. When you feel a need to correct her do it gently and tenderly—speaking the truth in LOVE. 16. Allow her to teach you without putting up your defenses.
17. Make special time available to her and the children.
18. Go the extra mile to show her that she matters more to you than your need to do something that threatens her sense of security.
19. Compliment her often.
20. Be creative when you express your love, with both words and actions.
21. Sit down with her to set specific family goals to achieve together for each year.
22. Allow her to buy things she considers necessary without hassling her.
23. Be forgiving when she offends you.
24. Show her you need her.
25. Learn to accept her the way she is; discover her uniqueness as special.
26. Admit your mistakes; don't be afraid to be humble. She'll appreciate that!
27. Defend her to others—especially to your family.
28. Allow your wife to fail; lovingly discuss what went wrong after you've comforted her.
29. Rub her feet or neck, or scratch her back after a hard day.
30. Take time to sit and talk calmly when either of you is upset about something
31. Take her out on romantic outings.
32. Write her a letter occasionally, telling her how much you love her.
33. Surprise her with a card or flowers.
34. Express to her how much you appreciate her.
35. Tell her how proud you are of her.
36. Give advice in a loving way when she asks for it.
37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is very important to her.
38. Show her that you prefer her to others—give her your attention and your time whenever possible.
39. Don't expect her to do projects beyond her capabilities.
40. Pray for her to enjoy God's best in life.
41. Take time to notice what she has done for you and the family (and let her know you notice).
42. Brag about her to other people, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
43. Share your thoughts and feelings with her.
44. Tell her more about your job when she expresses interest.
45. Take time to see how she spends her day, at work or at home.
46. Take care of the children before or after dinner (whichever she prefers, to give her time to herself).
47. Pray together with her after a hurtful time.
48. Help straighten up the house after mealtime.
49. Let her take a bubble bath or some other activity while you do the dishes.
50. Understand her physical limitations and help her with the children.
51. Discipline the children in love, not anger.
52. Help her finish her goals, hobbies, and education.53. Treat her as if God had stamped on her forehead, "Handle with Care."
54. Work to get rid of habits that annoy her.
55. Be gentle and thoughtful to her relatives.
56. Don't compare her relatives with yours in a negative way.
57. Thank her for things she has done without expecting anything in return.
58. Be verbally supportive and honor her in front of the children.
59. Make sure she understands everything you're planning to do.
60. Do little things for her—an unexpected kiss, coffee in bed.
61. Treat her as an intellectual equal.
62. Surprise her by asking her to give you a list of 3 things she'd like done around the house within the next month. And then make it your goal to do them.
63. Discover her fears in life.
64. See what you can do to eliminate those fears.
65. Discover her sexual needs.
66. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss (with no expectations to go any further).
67. Work to keep yourself in shape.
68. Plan your future together.
69. Don't quarrel over words, but try to find hidden meanings.
70. Don't forget to use common courtesies with your wife like holding the door open for her and pouring her coffee. (Too often we're kinder to strangers than we are to our own spouse.)
71. Ask her if you offend her sexually in any way.
72. Go out of your way to help her feel valued over anyone else.
73. See if she's uncomfortable about the way money is spent. 74. Take her on dates now and then. You dated her before you married which helped you to fall in love, now date each other to STAY in love.
75. Hold her hand in public.
76. Put your arm around her in front of friends.
77. Tell her love her often.
78. Remember anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.
79. Go shopping with her if that is what she would enjoy. (And don't keep looking at what time it is when you go with her. That will be a pleasant surprise to her.)
80. Make it a point to teach her to hunt and fish or whatever you enjoy doing if she'd enjoy it.
81. Surprise her by giving her a special gift from time to time.
82. Share the responsibilities around the house.
83. Don't belittle her.
84. Let her express herself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
85. Carefully choose your words, especially when angry.
86. Don't criticize her in front of others—keeping her dignity in tact.
87. Don't focus on the physical features of another woman (because, whether you understand her reasoning or not, that makes your wife feel dishonored).
88. Be sensitive to her needs—looking for ways to bless her.
89. Let her know you want to spend special time with her and the children.
90. Fix dinner for her sometimes.
91. Be sympathetic when she's sick—and help her however you can.
92. Call her when you're going to be late.
93. Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.
94. Take her out to dinner and for weekend getaways.
95. Do the "little things" she needs from time to time.
96. Give her special time alone with her friends.
97. Buy her what she considers an intimate gift.
98. Read a book she recommends to you.
99. Give her an engraved plaque assuring her of your lasting love.
100. Show her affection without sexual intentions.